Mentorship and sponsorship are key drivers of success, yet women can have a harder time finding mentors and sponsors, especially ones with influence. The good news is that we can mentor other women at any stage in our careers, and it pays off when we do. Women who are mentored by women feel more supported and are often more satisfied with their career.
Use our tips to be the best mentor/protégé you can be, and remember, like all good relationships, mentorship is a two-way street.
1. Consider timing
Mentors: Find a woman to mentor—it’s never too early
No matter what stage you’re at in your career, you can mentor another woman. If you’re farther along in your career, pay it forward by investing in a woman just starting. And if you’re early in your career, find a woman who’s coming up behind you or a student who’s interested in your field. Don’t underestimate the value of your input—you may have just been through what she’s experiencing.
Protégés: Don’t ask, “Will you be my mentor?”
If you have to ask a woman to be your mentor, the answer is probably no. Mentorship relationships start with a mutual connection—and mentors often select protégés based on their performance and potential.2 So shift your thinking from “If I get a mentor, I’ll excel” to “If I excel, I will get a mentor.” Find a woman whose career path aligns with your goals and work hard to get noticed. For example, share your ideas for making a project she’s leading better or volunteer for an initiative that’s important to her.
2. Respect their energy
Mentors: Invest in your protégé’s success
Commit time and energy to developing your protégé. Make yourself available and take the time to understand her questions and give her thoughtful and thorough input. Ask your protégé for regular updates. The more you understand her progress—and what’s working and what’s not, the more effective you can be as a mentor. If she’s not using your time wisely, be clear about your expectations and set guidelines for your time together. You’ll both benefit from getting into a good rhythm
Protégés: Your mentor’s time is valuable—treat it that way
Show your mentor you value her time by using it wisely. Avoid meeting just to catch up or asking questions you can find answers to yourself. Instead, come to her with thoughtful questions and be ready to discuss real challenges you’re facing. Then listen carefully to her recommendations and report back on your progress. She’s more likely to continue to invest in you if you’re acting on her input—and she sees the impact she’s having on your career.
3. Embrace feedback
Mentors: Give open, honest input—even when it’s hard
Direct, actionable feedback is a gift, but women often receive less of it. Look for opportunities to give your protégé specific input for improving her performance and learning new skills. Whenever possible, share your input in the moment, when it’s most effective. If you hold back to protect your protégé’s feelings, you’re not helping her. Remember, your honest feedback will help her advance more quickly.
Protégés: view feedback as a gift
Women don’t always get the direct input they need to be their best selves because coworkers may be nervous about eliciting an emotional response.5 Make sure you don’t fall into this trap with your mentor. Solicit her feedback whenever you can by asking specific questions like, “How can I improve?” and “What am I not doing that I should be?” The more you ask for and accept her feedback, the faster you’ll learn—and odds are she’ll respect your openness and willingness to grow.
4. Personalize mentorship
Mentors: Don’t just mentor—sponsor!
The best mentors go beyond mentorship and advocate for their protégés. Start by understanding your protégé’s career goals, then think through her best path forward and how you can help. Endorse her on social media. Recommend her for a high-profile project. Introduce her to people in your network. Find ways to open doors for her and invest in her success.
Protégés: Build trust with your mentor
Over time mentors can develop into sponsors who use their status and clout to create opportunities and make connections for you. Before your mentor will sponsor you, she needs to trust that you are reliable and a bet worth making. To build trust, always follow through on what you say you’re going to do and always do your very best work. When you’re consistent over time, you build valuable trust with your mentor—and your coworkers.
This blog post was originally published by LeanIn.Org and can be found here: https://leanin.org/tips/mentorship.